Sunday, 1 March 2009

3 Steps In The Right Direction to Get Back With Ex

Breaking up can be an upsetting experience. Feelings of anger and despair flow through your mind constantly for the first few days. Finally you calm down and realize that you still love this person and you don't want to be without them. Wanting to get back with ex and knowing how are two different stories. Almost 90% of failed relationships could have been saved. Follow the steps below to put yourself in the percentage that succeeded.

The first thing you need to do is reign in your feelings of wanting to constantly have contact with your ex. The first few days after a break up are filled with emotions on both sides. Your ex is upset and angry and you are just wondering what the hell happened. You have to put all this aside and realize that your ex is going to need some space. If you act to desperate you could push your ex far enough away that they won't ever come back. Give them and yourself some time to calm down and get your emotions under control.

The second step is to realize that your life does not completely revolve around your ex. Yes there is a part of you that is missing right now but that does not mean your life becomes all about how your going to get back with ex. There were things you enjoyed before you met your ex and it's time to revisit them. As time passes the fact that you are doing well and moving on with your life will reach your ex's ears. It's this type of interest and confidence that you exude that will make you more attractive to your ex. Constantly apologizing and begging for you ex to take you back will just put you both in a awkward situation. The will have all the power over you at the at point and eventually you will resent them for it.

Finally you can open the lines of communication with your ex slowly. Let them know that you would like to get together and casually talk about some of the things you have been thinking about. Let them know there is no pressure and you don't want anything else from them except to talk. This will go along way in earning your ex's trust. You have to remember that they fell in love with you at one point. You just have to get them back to that place. These are just a few steps used to get back with ex.