Thursday 26 February 2009

Dating Someone Who Is Overweight

Have you been dating someone who is one of the nicest people that you have ever known and who you really enjoy being around? If so, you should consider yourself lucky. When you think about what you would change about the person do you always think about their weight? More people than ever before are overweight, which means that all of us have the chance of falling for someone who is overweight. Is being overweight a deal breaker for you?

If you always think about their weight you need to get to the bottom of it. You need to remember that what a person looks like is not all that there is to them. If you have fun with the person and they treat you well, you need to learn to move past the weight issue if this is purely a vanity thing. Most people find that when they are really in love some with someone that it is easy to look past their physical issues and just love them for who they are.

On the flip side of the coin, you may be worried about the health of the person that you are dating. While you should not be wrapped up in what the person you are dating looks like, you may have a reason to worry about their health if they are overweight. Do you notice that they cannot easily participate in physical activities? Do they have health problems that could be linked to their being over weight? In this instance you may have a bit of a reason to consider their weight.

If you are dating someone who is overweight you need to be careful how you approach this topic. Most people who should lose some weight don't need other people to point that out to them, but if you want to help you can be supportive. Let your love interest know that you want to start eating better and you would enjoy their support. You may also want to tell them that you want to start working out more and you would like them to join you in this endeavor, as well. When you make it about you, you may be able to help your love interest lose weight and get in shape. You'll not only feel better about their health, you may find that you are more attracted to them than you have been in a long time, or ever!

This is not to say that you should concentrate solely on someone's weight. You shouldn't date someone with the intention of helping them lose weight, because not everyone wants to lose weight and get in better shape. If you cannot stand the idea of dating someone who is overweight, you may be limiting your options, but you should definitely steer clear of anyone who has weight to lose.

Monday 23 February 2009

Dating Someone Who Morphs Into A Different Person

Have you ever dated someone who seemed like they would morph into a different person in every circumstance that they were in? We all do this to a certain extent, but there are some people who become someone entirely different when they are put into different situations and this can be a bit confusing or off putting for the more normal person. People who change in this way are often called chameleons because they are able to change their colors depending on the surroundings.

Dating someone who is like this can be complicated especially if you have always known them in one setting. You fell for the person based on what you saw in this one setting and you have always enjoyed their company. Now you go somewhere new with them and suddenly they seem like someone else entirely. How do you respond?

It can be a bit perplexing and you may just want to sit back and watch. You may realize that your date is just trying to fit in and after they warm up you should wait and see if they come around a bit and start acting more like the person you have gotten to know. You should pay particular attention to how they act toward you. Most of the time, if someone acts a little bit different in another setting they still treat you the same, you can look past it. If the person not only behaves differently but treats you differently, this can be a little bit more difficult to move past.

If they treat you differently you should talk to them about how they change from setting to setting. You may want to let the first time just pass and see if it happens again. If you find that your date is truly a chameleon then it is time to sit down and talk to them. Let them know that how they change from one situation to the next is uncomfortable for you.

Talk about why they do this and if you can help them be more comfortable with who they really are. You may need to ask, as politely as possible, if the person you know is the real them or if they have been putting on airs for you, too. Let them know that you enjoy their company but you find it disturbing how much they change from situation to situation.

Many chameleons don't realize that they do this and they may actually be surprised by the discussion. Others realize that they do it and they have no shame over it. You need to decide for yourself if you can keep dating someone who is so unpredictable in social settings. Many people find that they just cannot deal with the unknown every time they step out of the house with such a person.

Friday 20 February 2009

Dating Someone Who Is On Medication

The term "mentally ill" is being used more and more and in some instances it is a bit misleading. Many people assume that everyone who is on medication for any mental issues is "mentally ill" but this is probably not a fair statement.

If you do know that the person you are dating is taking medications, you should embrace it and help the person be the best that they can be. You should also try to understand the mental issues that the medications are addressing.

You should know that a good percentage of people are on some sort of medication or have sought treatment for what could be considered a "mental illness" by some. You need to remember that dating someone who is on some sort of medication is not rare and it doesn't have to be something that you are afraid of. You just need to be very open about it and decide for yourself who you can date and who you cannot.

You may have been dating someone for awhile and recently they just don't you that they are on medication for depression and you are wondering if you should be dating someone who is mentally ill, the fact of the matter is that they probably aren't really ill, in fact someone who takes medication is ahead of the game because they are preventing mental illness from taking hold.

For instance, if the person you are dating is taking medications for depression that is one thing, but if they are taking medications for bipolar disorder it is something different. You should know what your love interest is being medicated for and why. This can help you understand one another better and help you not judge them for something you don't understand.

If you are dating someone who really needs medications for a mental illness you should be prepared for the fact that a lot of people try to go off of their medications on their own. This can cause big changes in moods and personalities and you need to decide for yourself if you can continue to be around someone who will not stay on their medication. This is why it is important for you to understand what your friend is suffering from and how you can help.

The stigma attached to mental illness is not what it once was. Now people are encouraged to get the help that they need so they can be the people they were meant to be aside from depression or other issues. If you find that someone that you like is being treated for a mental illness, don't write them off just based on this. Instead, slow down and consider how you can help and how much you like the person!

Tuesday 17 February 2009

Signs Of Telling If A Relationship Ends

When you are in a relationship with someone and you start to get some bad signals or signs or even bad vibes, it would be for the best for all involved to back out of the relationship because it's probably up in smoke. Long distance relationships usually suffer the most.

In cases like these, the relationship is harder to keep going because there are so many miles and so many different things that can come into play. These people might meet someone there where they live, or one of these persons would have to move to the area where the other person is living, and they might not want to leave because of their family or friends.

In most cases, you will end up getting some signals or signs that, if you really think or look at them, are trying to tell you that this relationship is over. When this happens, always try to let the person you are breaking up with down easy. Don't be mean or nasty to them. Just tell them that this isn't going to work and that you would like to stay friends. This is the best way and the nicest way to end a relationship.

This way will only work like this if the couple that is breaking up live far apart and it isn't that easy to go and see this person face to face to tell them that it's over. Some people will think that this is the chicken's way out, but it is the only way that it can be done. If you are a couple that live in the same town, then you will have to go face to face to tell that person that you don't think that it is working and be honest about the reason or reasons why.

If more people would listen to their own vibes about people in general, you would be surprised as the number of feelings about this person might be right. Some people can tell what a person is like by the vibes that they will receive from this person. You can even sometimes tell by a person's mood if you will like them as a person. Sometimes a person can be loving one minute and change right in front of your eyes to someone that you might even like to be near. This can happen in more cases than you will ever know.

Saturday 14 February 2009

Dating Someone Who Likes Animals

Are you one of those people who doesn't like animals or is just indifferent toward them? Many people feel this way and it seems like people who don't appreciate animals often find themselves dating or even in a serious relationship with someone who is a true animal lover. How do you reconcile these differences and build or maintain a strong relationship when you have such a difference in opinion where animals are concerned?

If you have never been in a relationship where there is a difference like this, liking animals and not, may not seem like a big deal to you. When you either love animals or don't and the person that you are dating feels differently you may find that it is a bigger deal than you would have ever imagined, especially if the animal lover of the two of you already has animals and has a desire to have even more.

So, how do you deal with this? If you are the person who does not like animals you should express your fear or dislike of them to your partner. Let them know that you value your relationship but you need to move slowly with the animals. Tell them to keep their animals in your presence but perhaps not on you or right next to you. This will allow you to warm up to the idea of animals being around you so that you can hopefully accept the part of your partner's life that is important to them while staying comfortable yourself.

If you are the person with the animals be sure to move slowly and not force your mate to like your animals. If you take it slowly you may find that they actually warm up to your animals and seek them out. This can be especially true if your mate just doesn't know much about the animals or if they have had a bad experience in the past. If you allow for things to progress at a natural pace you will likely find that all of you, including your animals, can learn to co-exist.

Animals are a big part of a lot of people's lives and those that love animals don't understand those that do not, yet we often end up dating one another. Just be really patient and allow for your mate to get to know your animals and for your animals to get to know them.

If everyone is willing to work at it, animal lovers and non-animals lovers can learn to co-exist nicely together. If you push it, you'll find that it backfires, so just sit back and be patient and things will likely work out.

Wednesday 11 February 2009

Finding The Right Man

Relationships will always be complicated. Many women simply do not know what they are looking for in a man. If you are a woman over forty, and you are looking for a new man to begin a relationship with, you must think about exactly what kind of relationship you want before you even start dating.

Men and women are very different, but most women realize that from a very young age. When it comes to getting involved in a romantic relationship, men and women seek and expect very different things. This is the reason why it seems so difficult for us to find a man that will make us happy.

Take a look at your past relationships with men. All of us tend to be creatures of habit, so it is very likely that you are just finding the same type of man over and over again. This time let it be different so you can break the cycle and find someone you are truly compatible with.

Make a list of what qualities and traits you are seeking with a man you would want to become involved with. Write down what you would expect in regards to handling finances, intimacy, faith, values, family, and anything else that is part of your life. So many women believe that men will change once they are in a committed relationship with a woman. This is rarely true and women should not expect it.

You deserve to be in a relationship with a man who will accept you for who you are. Focus on finding the right person, make a commitment to seek out men who have the qualities, characteristics, and traits that are important to you, and then make an effort to meet men who meet your criteria.

If you are involved in activities with your church or community, this is the best place to start looking for a man who will meet your expectations. You will share similar value systems and have interests in common, so there is much more of a chance that a relationship that starts out like this will endure the test of time.

So be willing to take a chance on love and find a man who will be loving and accepting of you, just the way you are.

Sunday 8 February 2009

9 Cheap but Romantic Date Ideas

If you can't afford the stereotypical date of dinner out at a fancy restaurant, don't worry. There are plenty of things that you and your loved one can do on a very limited budget.

Whether you're taking out someone special, rekindling the romance with your spouse or planning a night out with another couple, use these ideas for inspiration.

1. A picnic in the park. Few dates are as romantic as the simple picnic in the park. Pack a basket with some strawberries, homemade sandwiches and sparkling cider or wine. Even the most humble meal can be made special by eating it outdoors.

2. Explore your home town. Go to the local visitor's bureau and see what free events are coming to your area, or what hidden gems are around town that you may have forgotten about. Pretend you're a visitor to your city and see it through new eyes. You'll probably find a lot of free, or nearly free, activities that you never knew existed in your area. For example, many towns have walking maps of historical homes and landmarks.

3. A walk on the beach. If you have an ocean nearby, be sure to take advantage of the romantic potential of a walk on the beach. Time your walk for early morning or late evening, just as the sun is making its most dramatic show in the sky. You can also visit a beach at night and enjoy a moonlit stroll.

4. Make your own game night. Raid the dollar store for a variety of different game pieces and create your own game. Mix up pieces from different games, like cards, dice, game pieces, etc. Make up rules and then write them down so you can play again in the future.

5. A bookstore visit. Go to a bookstore and read each other your favorite books from childhood. Pick out a travel book from a place you'd like to visit and share your dream vacation. There are so many things you can explore together at a boo store that you may want to go back more than once.

6. Explore local arts. Local music shows, art festivals and poetry readings are great ways to support the local arts and have a cheap date at the same time. Look through the Friday newspaper to get in touch with what's going on over the weekend.


7. Take a tour. if you have a local food or beverage factory, you have a potential frugal date destination. Call the factory to see if they offer tours and book a date.

8. Travel games. Take a drive without knowing where you'll end up. Make up a list of directions that you'll follow before you leave your house. For example, "turn left at the first yellow house" or "go three miles past the first red sign."

9. Volunteer. This date idea is perfect if you and your significant other care about protecting the world and helping others. Decide on your favorite cause as a couple and then look for opportunities to make a difference. Local soup kitchens, senior care facilities and environmental groups are always looking for volunteers.

Thursday 5 February 2009

Getting Your Boyfriend Back

Break-ups can definitely be devastating. If you've just been through one, you may be left feeling disillusioned and confused. The initial shock is difficult to get through, but this is also a very critical time if you are holding out any hope of getting back together with your boyfriend.

Once the break-up has taken place, the first thing you need to do is to assess the situation and decide if there is a chance to win your boyfriend's heart back. If the break-up happened due to infidelity, it will be much more difficult for reconciliation, forgiveness, and healing. The process will be slow and he will have to learn to trust you again.

Depending on the circumstances surrounding the separation, the initial shock can take such a toll on your emotions that it can often cause a person to do and say things that they will deeply regret later on. Regardless of the stress you may be under, it is imperative that you take control of the situation and especially of your own actions. Remember, if you want the opportunity to win your boyfriend back, now is not the time for fits of rage, stalking, or any other actions that can be held against you later.

If the cause for the break-up was not due to unfaithfulness, then it is important to keep in mind the fact that he originally dated you for a reason and once he is away from you, chances are good that he will realize what he is missing. That is why it is critical to remain in control during this initial period.

During the first stages after a relationship ends, the man carries around his mental list of reasons why the separation was necessary. He continues to tell himself, especially when he starts feeling lonely, that this was the right thing to do. During this time frame, if you reinforce his reasoning by acting out in anger against him, this will only serve to solidify his decision.

Instead, take this cooling off period as an opportunity to work on yourself. Keep your self-esteem high by joining the gym, getting your hair done, socializing with friends. It is when you remain secure and calm that he will have the opportunity to remember the good times with you and begin to miss you.

By remaining calm and offering an opportunity to talk, you are showing him that you are not only self assured, but mature and able to handle even highly emotional and traumatic events. Believe it or not, this will be highly attractive to your ex boyfriend.

If he hasn't called and it's been over two weeks since the break-up, it's a good idea to keep communication open by emailing or calling to ask how he is doing. Nothing too serious, just let him know that you are thinking of him and let it go. If you feel a positive reaction from him, it is fine to ask him if you two can talk over lunch or at a park.

Most women make the deadly mistake of immediately destroying his belongings, bad-mouthing him to friends, hitting the bars, or dating someone else in an effort to make him jealous. All terrible choices that can ruin any chance for reconciliation. If you want to get back together with your boyfriend, give him that cooling off period and then offer him the open door to get back together. Be ready and willing to discuss the problems that led to the break-up. All of these things will get you back on the path to a happy, healthy relationship.

Monday 2 February 2009

How To Win Your Ex Back

On a normal day, you would have woken up and get ready to go to work. But today, you just don't feel like waking up. Everything around you seems so gloomy. Because, yesterday, Jane just said, "Let's just be friends."

Yes, a break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend can be very devastating and this is understandable. It is just like you lose a very important part of yourself. And most probably, deep inside you heart, you really wish you can win your ex back, but is not really sure if you can succeed.

The first step towards winning your ex back is to have "Hope". Yes, hope is very important. Without that little bit of "Hope", you will probably not even try. You probably will not even attempt to contact your ex.

So, how to win your ex back? What are the steps I should take?

Well, perhaps the first task is to heal your emotions. Yes, you are emotionally devastated after a break up, at least for a few days. But after those few days, it is time for you to get positive again. Ultimately, youcan't win your ex back by being pessimistic. People like to stay together with optimistic and positive people. Being pessimistic, needy or desperatewill only drive your ex further away.

Well, winning your ex back is definitely not an easy task, depending on your circumstances. But it is definitely not impossible either. You might not believe it, but it seems that there are many people breaking up everyday. The good news is there are also a lot of couples patching up after their break up.

The second step you will want totake is to avoid making mistakes. The fact is people tend to make mistakes when trying to win their ex back. And those mistakes are more common than you would believe.

Some common mistakes includecalling your ex over and over again, trying to argue with your ex over the break up, trying to professyour undying love etc. So, why are these actions considered mistakes? Well, if you take the time to ponder about it, you will realize that these mistakes are committed out of desperation.

Some common mistakes include calling your ex over and over again, trying to argue with your ex over the break up, trying to profess your undying love etc. So, why are these actions considered mistakes? Well, if you take the time to ponder about it, you will realize that these mistakes are committed out of desperation.