Friday 29 May 2009

Successful First Date Tips

One of the reasons why first dates can be tricky is the because of the pressure we put on ourselves under to create a good impression. If we can relax then we can stop thinking about what to say next; we can pay attention to what our date is saying. How cool is that?

Here are some useful tips which may help you change the way you look at dating and help take the pressure off yourself:

-Neither your date's house nor yours is an ideal place for meeting. Similarly seeking the company of others to act as a chaperone is also not a good idea. An open, busy place such as a restaurant, a bar or a mall is the safest and best place for any first meeting. Alternatively, why not meet during the day? If you can meet in the city or town centre then you could maybe become part of activity that is going on. For example a festival of some kind and it'll give you something to talk about right off the bat.

-When going to the chosen venue you should always drive your own car. This way your date does not have to pick you up and know where you live and you know that you have a vehicle handy if you need to make a quick getaway.

-Always try to make your dating session simple and short. First dates will often make you nervous. Nervous conditions and complicated plans will not go hand in hand. Make your dating enjoyable and smooth.

-Women should take care to wear something which is not provocative or sexy. In fact it is an old concept, but care should be taken with the first impression. Your date has nothing more to go on than your appearance and how you behave. It is said that first impressions are made in the first few seconds of a meeting. Also, women are far more tuned into body language than men. So men, if you have any nervous ticks or twitches, control them.

-Always wear clothing which makes you confident and that you are comfortable with so you are not preoccupied with a too-tight waistline or a necktie that feels like you are being strangled. It is most important that you should feel comfortable enough to concentrate on the other person in front of you. The clothing you wear should also be co-ordinated and look cool. If in doubt ask a shop assistant of a clothing store on what looks good on you. It's true they will want the sale, but most will also be willing to help as well.

-You should always be specific about the place of the date. This will enable you to plan ahead and also help to choose suitable clothing for the situation. Wearing cocktail attire to a fast food place will definitely will be uncomfortable. Guys the woman here is probably expecting you to decide where to go. So be decisive.

-And most important of all, stay in control by not drinking too much alcohol. In addition to becoming vulnerable to your surroundings, you also create a bad impression. Save the drinking until you're more sure of each other and your surroundings are safer. For women, tell a friend where you'll be.

Tuesday 26 May 2009

Dating Again After A Breakup

When we break up with someone we always say that we will never date again, that we just never want to experience the heart break that comes with the end of a relationship.

These are words that we have all said or thought at some time in the past, but inevitably we put our broken heart aside and we jump back on the proverbial horse again and get back into dating. After a breakup you may be hesitant to start dating again or you may feel like you have to tread softly and this is okay. You can help to make the process of getting back out there easier by telling yourself:

You're not looking to replace your ex
You just want to have a good time you aren't looking for a serious relationship
You deserve to go out and have fun
Being out and about will make you feel better about yourself

Your conversations while out should not mention or focus on your ex
You can learn to love again
Everyone gets hurt and everyone deserves to date again
You may meet some people who will make getting over your ex a lot easier
Getting out will brighten your spirits
You have a right to have fun even after a nasty breakup

These are some simple statements that you can tell yourself so you can get back out there with confidence. Many people feel like they shouldn't be going out after a bad break up or that they shouldn't be worried about dating again because they'll never love again, but this is the wrong approach. You need to believe in the process of healing and also the possibility that you will meet someone who is so much better for you than your ex ever was. If nothing else, getting out of the house and mingling with other people will allow you to have fun and take your mind off of your broken heart.

Don't make dating again all about your ex though, make it about you. Too many people focus on showing up their ex or making it obvious that they have moved on and there is nothing less attractive than someone who is trying to stick it to their ex. Make dating again about you and your entitlement to be happy.

This will ensure that you have a good time while you are out and that you are truly out there and having fun for the right, instead of the wrong, reasons. Dating should be fun and should be a way to explore new facets of your personality while moving away from the past and toward the future, so get out there and have some fun and leave your ex and that relationship behind you.

Saturday 23 May 2009

A Successful Blind Date Top Tips

The first point to bear in mind about a blind date, is to beat around the bush. Do not just go on a blind date without any basic details or information on the person you wish to date. Plan your blind date procedure a few days ahead and let the plans go around in your mind so that you know what to do and how to deal with situations that may arise. Do not just trust your blind date completely and do not entrust your whole evening or your life in the hands of an unknown person.

If the blind date knows someone who you know well or has been set up by a person you know well, then there is a much larger element of trust there. If your blind date is someone you've met on the internet, then find out as much as you can about your date until you instinctively feel comfortable spending some time with this person.

Instead of making very fancy and elaborate plans on your very first blind date, it is far safer to plan your dating in a casual and crowded place where you both can have a relaxed conversation and be comfortable enough to share one another's views. Besides ensuring your safety, casual dating will also help both of you to get to know one another better. Also in a crowded or a cool place you should have plenty of subjects to talk about i.e. your environment. This helps steer the conversation away from the formal topics of where did you go to school, what did you study and the like.

Try to keep the blind date informal and do not over dress for the occasion. For a blind date you don't need to turn up wearing formal wear but you should not turn up in gym clothes either. Show some taste in dressing; keep it casual and smart. Keep all your special clothes, till say after two or three dates. And men should save their suits for their wedding day. Aim to strike a good balance and create a good lasting impression.

However best you prepare for your blind date it still might not go as good as you would have liked. The chemistry between you and your date might not work well but that doesn't mean you cannot trust or find the person interesting. It might just be a bad day for either or both of you. Keep your mind open, never pass judgement and don't be too rigid. It's easy to feel deflated if the date doesn't go well; the time investment and maybe even the financial investment, not to mention the hope. If you do get on really well, then you'll want to get together again. This is where you start playing the game of should I call her tomorrow or the day after. The conventional wisdom is not to arrange a next date at the end of the first of the date; to leave them wanting more. But this will be your call.

Thursday 21 May 2009

Choose Photo Personals

When Photos was aboriginal alien decades ago, it had become the best way to abduction memories and contest that transpired in the past. Because of the camera, photos accept become a added basal apparatus to abundance information. Photos taken by our accompany as able-bodied as families are preserved memories of what happened and what we looked like years ago. Some of these humans are our admired ones that may not be absolute anymore. About at the actual least, you will consistently accept a account to admonish you of them.

One affair to agenda about photos is that its use is not limited. Photos accomplish you feel abutting to anyone even if he lives afar advanced and far abroad from you. If you absence someone, you can try ample this blank by avaricious a account of them and befitting them abutting to your affection as if you are adhering them At this instance you will not feel so abandoned anymore.

In affiliation with online dating, a lot of of the dating websites requires you to column your photo in your internet dating profile. When you see a account of anyone acquaint online they accomplish you feel like you can chronicle to them added freely. In the end, it will feel as if you were abutting to them.

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People will beam your photo personals and this can abundantly actuate your affairs for a acknowledged relationship. You should attending admirable in your photo personals because this can access your affairs of award humans who would adulation to see you in being and accept a date with you. Remember that those humans who accept uploaded photos in a photo personals website can accomplish traffic, and this can be a way for you to become added accepted online. The abstruse is to just column a acceptable one. The blow of the accommodation lies with the added individual cat-and-mouse to accommodated you.

Photos should be able to acquaint something about yourself, it should be acceptable in the eyes and at the aforementioned time will reflect a little about your personality. This will accomplish you become added adorable and adorable for the adverse sex.

Online Dating Networks

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This is clashing online dating in accepted but a added organized and fun way to do the dating itself. Their affinity is that they are both application the internet as a average of advice and a way to amend anniversary other. Dating arrangement is aswell authoritative the apple abate in a faculty that humans can be affiliated with anniversary added wherever they are.

Dating arrangement is authoritative a hit amid adolescence because they are not in a way announcement affair but for friendship’s sake. Adventurous relationships will chase if both parties are activity the charge for adulation as partners.

Wednesday 20 May 2009

From Dating Loser to an Irresistible Guy

It's fine to get rejected once. But thrice in a row? That's altogether inexcusable. You should have done something to yourself before you let yourself be dumped three times in a row. Surely, the guy behind your getting (you) dumped looks hunky and cool, but it's not an excuse that you should make to yourself. Implement a plan of action now! Go and transform yourself into a charismatic guy.

1. Regulate your voice.
Try to sound more mature than your age. If you could modulate your voice a nick deeper, the better. A low baritone voice is one of the qualities in men that many women seek. Women detest immature sounding men with lots of errs and uhms when stringing along sentences. When you speak, modulate and speak clearly. Remove unnecessary idiosyncrasies.

2. Practice the movement of "cool" guys.
Cool guys move around less and smoothly. Practice it at home. Try not to slouch and practice the "cool" stance by watching the movements of "cool" guys in the bar or of movie stars who are considered sexy and appealing such as Brad Pitt, George Clooney and Hugh Jackman.

3. Learn how to stare "nicely."
It's alright to stare, but not much. You might scare women off. Staring nicely here means you should look at a woman's eyes for a couple of seconds, hold it and then release it before she does. Repeat and rinse and stop on the fourth time. Get cues from the woman's body language. If she looks uneasy with you making an eye contact with her, stop with your first staring attempt. Let an hour go by without you looking at her. With this tactic, there's a 99% probability that you will see sparkle in her eyes the next time you look at her.

4. Cut the crap out of conversation.
When conversation starts between you and a beautiful woman, don't stumble yourself by giving her praises that she would eventually get tired of. Women love compliments but hate an overzealous guy who doesn't know how to keep a conversation entertaining and instead adorns his dialogue with flowery praises.

Also, don't be the "very intelligent" guy in the house. Yes, you're a magna cum laude, but don't be a know-it-all and make a woman feel as though she's unintelligent. Once you're together, she'd know how intelligent you are and you don't need to flaunt it the first time you meet or dine out together.

Sunday 17 May 2009

How To Pick Up Beautiful Women

Perhaps, this question always plagued you. "How to pick up beautiful women?"

Well, let me ask you this question instead. "What comes to your mind whenever you see a beautiful woman?"

If you are like most guys, you will probably be fantasizing about how she is attracted to you and how confident you are etc...

But when it comes time to take action and approach her, you probably hesitated. Well, what is she rejects me? I totally understand that situation because I have been there too.

Perhaps, you will become more successful with women if you are equipped with these 3 powerful weapons.

1) Confidence

Nothing attract a woman more than a brimming confidence. Don't believe me? Ever wonder why so many women fall for jerks?

Ok, before you think you have to be a jerk to attract women, well, you don't have to. You do not have to behave like a jerk to show your confidence. By it will be helpful to go into the mind of confident guys.

What you need to know is that confident men are not afraid to do whatever they want. They are not worried about other people's opinions of them. Of course, we won't be able to cover everything about confidence in this article.

There are many good resources out there that will teach you how to become more confident.

2) Your Appearance

By appearance, it doesn't mean you have to go to the gym and build your muscles. Though it can help if you are a bit skinny like me.

What I meant by appearance is through the way you dress. You don't have to dress like a millionaire or like a model. But you should at least bother to comb your hair and look presentable and clean. And this is definitely something you can do within minutes.

Sometimes, it really puzzles me. A guy will simply dress in shorts to meet a girl for the first time.

3) Your Sense Of Humor

Alright, not every guy is humorous. Or they may suddenly lose their humor in front of a beautiful woman. But the good news is humor can be practiced. Humor can be perfected.

And one warning here. Don't ever attempt to tell lame joke. Chances are, she will feel awkward and might just try to have a chuckle or two, just to appear polite. You certainly do not want to look like a fool. That's what I used to do anyway. You do not want to fall into the same trap as I did.

Thursday 14 May 2009

Tips For Effective Dating

You got the chance to have your long-time crush to be your date on your Prom Night. You did not know what to do. Well, here are some helpful tips that you might use to impress your date and get to know her a bit more.

First, before that special night, you have got to do some preparations. Like, grooming yourself up to make yourself presentable and likable to your date. Get your hair done, get some manicure. Even guys need to be vain at some point in time. Rent a suit or tuxedo that you are to wear, if you can afford to have custom tailored suit why not have one? It is your time to shine. Prom nights happen only once. Do not forget to clean your shoes or buy a new pair. It is not bad to spend some dime for yourself.

Next, the flowers, of course the flowers! Do not ever forget the flowers that you are to give your date. Pick flowers that are soothing to the eyes.

Then prepare the RIDE. Of course you are to pick your date up the doorsteps of her residence. It gives a good impression to the parents to show that you are man enough to cross their gate. If you own a car, well good for you. If you don't, hmm maybe you can borrow your dad's or your mom's even just for this night. But you got to remember to tidy it up. You don't want to turn her off with your car, don't you?

Most importantly, your manners. Be a GENTLEMAN. Applying this trait ensures a next date. This will also show that you pretty much are mature enough to handle relationships. This will give a glimpse of your true personality. Don't forget to guide her in the way to car, open the door for her. It is not polite to stare at her, so just try to resist staring at her will you? Do not take advantage of her being a woman. You have to pay her some respect. As they always say, respect begets respect. By showing that you are a true gentleman, you can easily gain her trust. She will come to think that you are a decent and trustworthy man. Do not act assuming. Girls hate it.

Next, while in the party. You got to make her feel like a princess. Serve her her drinks. Ask her to dance, in a polite manner. Do not try so hard, I mean you have act as yourself. Do not try to show her the person whom you are not. Also, do not try to be so over-protective, she is not your girl in the first place. If at some point, someone asked her to dance and she agreed, do not block their way or act foolish. Don't act like a kid who dropped his candy and all over it.

Lastly, when the party is over. You got to drive her home safely. So, never ever forget to thank her for the night. Say that you had a wonderful evening with her. That you enjoyed every minute of it. And ask her how she felt. This could start a whole level of friendship between you and your crush.

Hope that this have helped you.

Monday 11 May 2009

How to Be The Leading Man And Get The Woman You Want

The perfect woman out there has her eyes set on you and nothing but you. All the men around her want her, give her the attention that any woman would love, yet she would never trade anything for you -- even if you haven't been giving her the special treatment that other men do. Sounds familiar, right? In the 50s it was Cary Grant, in the 90s it was Hugh Grant. By the 21st Century, it was Leonardo Di Caprio with his movie Titanic. These leading men get the right women who love them, warts and all. Amazing, isn't it? Well, you too can be the leading man type and be a suave pick up artist throughout your lifetime.

Read books; it helps. Honestly. Don't believe anyone who would claim that their "appeal" to women is purely natural. Please, that is a total crap. Art of Persuasion is something that has a formula and can be learned. You can also learn it if you only know how to do it exactly. There are tons of books out there that are specifically written to teach a man how to get the woman he wants and keep her wanting him. The basic guide is usually laid out clearly: from giving that perfect pick up line to follow up and follow through. Read these types of books; books that teach you step-by-step on how to achieve the leading man status. It will make you believe that you can do it, will help you boost your self-confidence and give you the "secrets" that men next to you won't ever reveal to you, even if you pay him 10 grand. Invest time to read them. It's all worth the trouble.

Practice. In your head. After reading these pick up books, use your imagination to practice the scenarios given in the books. Imagine yourself pulling a "care to have a drink" line without you getting a "no, thanks" look from your lady. Be creative and create your own pick up lines based on the examples provided in the book. Create different scenarios in your head and give your own take to the situation -- how you would handle a woman and how you would be remembered even after that first meeting. Practice In the wild. Practice makes perfect, so they say. It's true. With the secrets you learned from a pick up artist book, it's now time to give it a test drive.

You might blunder the first time, or you may not. Whichever the results of your test in the wilds would be, don't get discouraged or too eager. Learn from your tests and take note of both the good and the bad. In no time at all, you will reach the leading man status that only movie stars enjoy in movies they make.

Friday 8 May 2009

Tips on How to Get a Girl to Like You Right Now

Let's face it - getting the girl of your dreams to actually give you the time of day can be harder than running with the bulls in Spain - but sometimes just as painful!

But once you have found a woman that you can just not forget about, it's time to start a campaign to not only get her to notice you but also to give you the time of day. Figuring out how to get a girl to like you doesn't have to be as hard to master as biophysics and can be done far more quickly!

First, you need to have a ground work to build a relationship with this woman. If she doesn't know you very well, you'll need to make an impression on her ' a good and positive impression. Find common ground or hang out with her outside of a dating kind of setting. Let her really get to know the real you and you'll be well on your way to setting a date.

Next, flirt like crazy - but in a very genuine way. This isn't the time for cheesy cliches or insincere compliments. Only pay her a compliment if it's sincerely meant and not over the top.

And once you have made the compliment, move on and simply let it stand. She'll appreciate your appreciation and won't become embarrassed because you're making a big deal out of her. When flirting, avoid making comments that are double entendres. Instead, simply let her know that all of your attention is on her and she is the most fascinating creature around.

Going forward, you'll need to show her that you are seriously interested in her. One way to indicate interest is to gently touch her when you're spending time together. Reach out to touch her arm or sleeve to emphasize a point. Put an arm around her back when walking together. Gently touch her knee while watching an event together. All of these actions show your interest as well as your romantic side.

To further show how romantic you are, do silly things like placing a flower in her hair or giving her a simple present 'just because' that reminds you specifically of her. Learn what she loves and work that into the conversation or what plans you make when hanging out. This is both sweet and romantic and shows that you are well on your way to learning how to get a girl to like you.

Finally, once you've laid all of the groundwork, it's time to seal the deal. Laying the groundwork can sometimes take only a short amount of time, especially if you already know each other well. On the other hand, if you are new acquaintances, it can take a bit of time.

But when the time is right and your relationship is getting closer, it's time to ask her out. Learning how to get a girl to like you is as simple as mixing your genuine personality with a bit of patience and then reaping the results!

Monday 4 May 2009

5 Easy Seduction Tips For Getting That Girl

You meet terrific women all of the time. But your conversion factor is lousy - you just can't seem to seal the deal and turn a woman from an acquaintance to a lover.

What is causing that, and how in the world can you get beyond it and learn how to seduce any woman? It's quite simple, really. If you keep in mind a few important pointers, you'll be well on your way to attaining success and getting the women that you want to want you in return!

Step 1: Women are not cattle; they're human beings. If you think that seducing them by acting lewdly or making crude comments, you've read too many advice manuals that advise you to let it all hang out.

Stop! Instead, now is the time to really make a woman feel special. The more she feels like you are respecting her and really getting into her, the more likely it will be that she goes from being friend to lover.

Step 2: It really is all about your confidence. If you don't approach a woman with confidence, how will she ever take you seriously? But if you approach a woman and are sure of yourself without being over the top arrogant, you are so much more likely to really show her how you feel and bring her to bed tonight.

Step 3: Breaking down barriers with women is all about making them feel like they're at the complete center of your thoughts. Forget acting cool and showing off ' she'll just think you're a jerk.

Instead, sincerely spend time getting to know her. Listen actively and respond thoughtfully. Ask her more questions about her life and avoid any urge to brag about your own. The more you are able to build a psychological or mental connection, the easier it will be to learn how to seduce any woman of your dreams.

Step 4: Don't rush! Nowhere on planet earth is it realistic to meet a woman and seduce her within five minutes time. Not even if you're a celebrity. You don't have to take the better part of the next year to make progress, but it'll take longer than just five minutes to really make an impact.

Give yourself enough time. Better yet, give her enough time. Rushing along will simply make everyone feel uncomfortable. Instead, feel the pace of your involvement by reading the signs she's giving.

Step 5: Once you've made an intellectual collection and gotten to the point of feeling comfortable with one another, it's time to show that you know how to seduce any woman.

Use your body language and conversation to let her know how interested you are. Flirt and touch her frequently to reinforce this desire. Make sure she knows that she's the center of your world right now. If you've laid the groundwork well and don't come off as being over the top, you'll have seduced her in no time at all!

Friday 1 May 2009

Flirting Is An Art

Have you ever been having fun flirting with someone and then just as quickly as it all started it stops? This can be a really confusing experience, especially when you were excited about the connection that you had made with someone.

What do you do now? How do you respond to the silence or the lack of flirting that is now occurring? It can be a bit confusing, but don't beat yourself up about it. Flirting is not a science, it is an art and unfortunately your flirting may not be right for everyone that you come into contact with. From time to time flirting can go wrong, it happens to the best of us.

There is no way to really know what happened. A few things could have actually happened. Perhaps the person you were flirt with suddenly got busy and just does not have the time or energy to flirt with you at this point. This may be especially true if you were communicating by text message or email. Give them a few days and see if they don't get back in touch with you before you assume that something went wrong.

The person that you were flirting with may feel as though they were moving too fast and they backed off so that things don't continue. When you were the last to make a flirty move, allow for the ball to stay in their court. If they begin flirting with you again, simply pick up where they leave off, but don't push it. They have to be comfortable with the flirt for it to go anywhere.

You may have gone too far or read too much into your communications or interactions. It is difficult to flirt within the comfort levels of others when you do not know them well. You may have been too forward or just seemed too needy. People don't always know how to respond to those that are flirting with them, and you may have unknowingly been pushing them away by coming on too strong.

Every now and again flirt does go wrong, but it doesn't mean that it won't work the next time around. Don't waste your time worrying about what went wrong or if you can rectify the situation. If someone doesn't respond to your flirty nature there will be someone who does. If you feel an apology is necessary or you would like to talk to the person about it, be prepared for awkwardness.

There is nothing worse than saying, "I'm sorry if my flirting offended you." and someone saying in response, "I didn't realize you were even flirting with me." If you flirt with someone and they do not pursue the relationship, many times it is just better to leave the situation alone and hope that it resolves itself.